This is something I can relate to, because my mother only married my father because she became pregnant with me (almost aborted me) and my father was severely, severely abusive and never had charges pressed on him by my mother. If I had been abused by a spouse instead of my father I would still relive the experience to have the child I loved. I would work on getting "over" the hardship (like I'm doing now because of my Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), but the idea of erasing someone's existence sounds horrid to me.
That said, even though if I got pregnant now, totally not in an abusive situation, I would give it up for adoption (preferably an open adoption) because of my disabilities/financial situation. I also always wished my parents had given me up for adoption when my father was acting badly since my mother couldn't stand up to him and leave him.
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Date: 2009-03-13 07:10 pm (UTC)That said, even though if I got pregnant now, totally not in an abusive situation, I would give it up for adoption (preferably an open adoption) because of my disabilities/financial situation. I also always wished my parents had given me up for adoption when my father was acting badly since my mother couldn't stand up to him and leave him.
Sorry if this got tangental.