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hani_backup) wrote2011-07-24 04:38 pm
hani_backup) wrote2011-07-24 04:38 pm
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Thoughts of plastic surgery
I do sometimes wonder about that...how children react knowing/finding out one of their parents had plastic surgery (for non-necessary medical reasons). From the sound of the postsecret it doesn't sound like the plastic surgery was for medical reasons (skin grafts for a burn, cleft lip, breast reduction for back pain, etc.) so I'm going to assuming it's more for cosmetic reasons. I think I'd find it hypocritical, considering my parents' beliefs and how they forbade me to wear nail polish or use henna outside of wedding things and bleaching and dyeing your hairw as definitely not allowed and seen as being ungrateful for how God made you... But if it weren't for those beliefs, I imagine I might be more self-conscious about my body and possibly harangue for plastic surgery for myself. >_<
Sometimes when I see parents gifting their teenaged kids plastic surgery, especially boob jobs, I'm a little "wha?" I suppose part of it is because of the MTV or VH1 reality show a few years ago where people underwent plastic surgery to look more like their celebrities. Mmm, after Googling it seems like I'm talking about the show "I Want a Famous Face." But likely this is bias, because, barring times when my internal issues go haywire and my skin goes rash-y I don't seriously wish I had someone else's body or parts of their body. Yeah, sometimes I wish I have fuller hair or straighter teeth, but if I wanted to make the effort, I could just bunch of products for my hair and maybe do something for my teeth (assuming I'm not too old for braces and I can afford it some day). Or I wish I had more toned arms or legs but I'll do the hard work for it, if I really wanted to strengthen up myself. I've never been teased for my appearance (heckled, yes, but not insulted or teased) by others so I don't have that background or emotional pain that might make me inclined towards thinking about plastic surgery.
If I do become a parent, I think I'm unlikely to think of plastic surgery as a gift for my child, even if they beg, for a cosmetic reason. I might feel bad if it was due to bullying, but my gut instinct is "no, not if it's a non-medical reason." But maybe I'll change my mind if I see my child suffering... I just know I went "WHY?" when I read the article about parents letting their 7-years-old, Samantha Shaw, have surgery on her ears to stop the bullying. (Have they not seen their president's ears?) If my child raised the money by themselves and they were of age, I obviously have no right or say in their choice to have plastic surgery. But if they have the money but they needed my permission I don't know how I'd react... Probably as a last resort.
Going back to the original PostSecret, yes, I think I'd feel more self-conscious about my body if I suddenly found out a parent had plastic surgery done (assuming they weren't being hypocrites) and wonder if that parent judges me on my appearance. (The comments my parents usually make about my appearance is my hair is too wet to go outside in public, brush my hair, or I should eat more cause I'm too thin.) I think my mom and dad look fine the way they are. I rarely think about their appearance, unless they ask me too or someone asks me what they look like. I generally think people look okay the way they do and if I found out something I thought was nice about them or just naturally part of them was fake... Yeah, weird. And I'd get suspicious of my judgement from then on, about what is natural and what isn't...
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Talking Heads' song "Seen & Not Seen" is about a man who changes his face through his own force of will, by "keeping an ideal facial structure in his mind."
Interesting that recently, quite a few presidents & candidates have had prominent ears (GW Bush, Barack Obama, Ross Perrot).